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My Best Friend Has Prostate Cancer . . .

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He is not only my best friend. He is my gorgeous, wonderful, much loved hubby.

 

Ian nipped to the docs on December 27th to ask if he need be worried that on the VERY RARE occasion he needed to make a dash to the loo. There and then a blood sample was taken and sent off for the PSA test. Within a couple of days he received the phone call to say it was slightly elevated (11.0 Normal is roughly under 4) and an appointment had been made to see the specialist a few days later. Following an ultrasound scan, an examination, and an mri scan, biopsies were taken.

 

When we were given the results a few days ago it was a huge shock, naturally. Being told you have cancer must be just about the most difficult things you are ever going to be told when it comes to your health. However, it isn’t all 'doom and gloom'. Ian is very lucky, in a way. It is what is described as 'localised cancer' meaning it is totally within the prostate. He is going to talk to the surgeon on Monday to discuss the removal of the gland. This may be the best way forward. He will also talk it through with the radiologist as radiology treatment this could be another option.

 

Being a member of a male dominated forum prompted me to write this post. I had rarely thought about prostate cancer until a few days ago. If I had, I thought it was something that happened to older men, and to do with having to go for numberable trips to the loo in the night and problems getting an erection. Ian didn’t have ANY symptoms other than the very rare occasion when he suddenly HAD to go for a wee in a hurry!

 

From what I can gather with all my Googling and research I understand some men may feel embarrassed to go to their doctor to discuss any kind of problem in this ‘department'. And the thought of how it is checked - yes!, it is a little embarrassing (I expect!) but it only takes a few minutes and then the blood test and scan, if required, are routine procedures. Having a prostate biopsy is uncomfortable but doesn’t take long and is soon behind you (so to speak)! And after all that, the chances are there isn’t cancer present at all.

 

No one wants to be told they have cancer. It is frightening. But once you have the diagnosis, and then the facts, you understand it isn’t a death sentence. It really, really isn’t. It can be treated successfully, especially with an early diagnosis. And if anything comes from posting about Ian's experience and it prompts any of my forum friends to visit their doctor if they have any concerns then fantastic!!

 

For loads of good old information visit the Prostate Cancer UK website.

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Sad news hope all goes well, it's been on the news this week about prostrate cancer, people really do need to go have a check up included me, doesn't take much and peace of mind for people. Nothing else I could really say.

 

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Sorry to hear this. Glad it's localised, and glad he went to get checked.


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Oh I'm so sorry to hear that - it must be worrying but thankfully he acted quickly and action has been taken early. Friends and family have also been affected so I am aware of the worry but I'm sure the doc can fix him up. As you say, awareness is key. It is an awkward subject, just like bowel cancer can be. It's always good to be aware and get things checked out where timely intervention will mean better outcomes. Please give Ian my best wishes even though we have never met.


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Thanks for bringing this up! Glad to hear it is not going to be too hard to get rid of. Wishing Ian a fast and issue free recovery!


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Am also sorry to hear this. Its good that it is localised and I hope all goes well with his treatment.

 

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Thank you for sharing and the info. Best wishes to you both. Stick together and you'll be reet

 

It is something I think about. I've been for tests myself and luckily it's been ok. Nothing to be embarrassed about


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So sorry to hear about this but I'm glad to hear its localised.

Went through a similar thing with my Dad a few years back when I was secondary age, surgery would have meant having a colostomy bag fitted but instead he was lucky and had access to a type of radiotherapy only available in one place in the UK at the time.

I'm the youngest of 5 boys in the family and we all know the importance now of getting any doubts checked.

Thanks for flagging this up as something for people on the forum to consider.

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My best wishes to you both and here’s hoping for a speedy recovery for Ian.

 

This is certainly something we men and our ladies need to be more aware of. The earlier you catch these things the better.


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Here's me wishing you both all the best, as although Ian is the one with the prostrate gland problem and so will be the one having treatment, you're probably going through hell as well.

 

You raise a very good point, it's a barrier to be broken, and probably it's just about embarrassment, because if we men actually responded to early signs it can be stopped in its tracks with just drugs.

My chiropodist was found to have Prostrate cancer, and due to the combination of age etc elected to not return to work afterwards, whereas my barber is probably a quite a bit younger, and had a different type of treatment (involving ultrasound rather than a blade), and was back at work only a few weeks later (which was a few years ago now). So, here's hoping all goes well over the coming time.

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Like everyone else, very sorry to hear this. You're right, it's a massive shock but sounds like you're both well equipped to cope well.

And this is could be a timely reminder for us all.

Best wishes for a speedy recovery to Ian.

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My thoughts are etc....

 

If it lifts your spirits...

 

My neighbour who is in his late 60's had the same trip three years ago. Following all the investigations and consultations he decided to go for monitoring and no surgery.

His evening entertainment was still important to him.

He is pleased to report that apart from needing a wee at (sometimes at very short and inconvenient notice) he is living with it OK.

And he is firing on both cylinders ..if you know what I mean!

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I am very sorry to hear about Ian's problem but I am sure with your support and the consultants skill the outlook is positive.

My very best wishes to Ian. PS and the entertainments officer.

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Good post, and good luck to you both, I am sure your early response will reap the reward you hope for.

 

I was in a similar place 15 months ago. I had no desperate urge to pee, but on two occasions I pee'd what looked almost like coca cola. I also had various tests and ultimately a surgical solution. On the face of it some examinations were a little intimate, but worth the few minutes discomfort in order to identify the cause. With hindsight I should have seen my GP first time it happened and I would urge everyone to act as soon as. As Mildred and others mentioned an early interception is the best one. I am down one kidney now, but things are pretty much back to normal because things were caught early and I am hugely grateful for our NHS.

 

During my recovery in hospital, I was amazed at the number of fellas that were in for various procedures relating to the prostate, it is so common and worth everyone keeping in mind.

 

Thanks again for the infomative post, and chins up!

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I found myself clenching my buttocks and wincing as I read the various posts....hope it goes well for him.


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Sorry to hear this, but now it's been identified (early by the sounds of it), it can be dealt with, which is the main thing, so here's to getting it kicked into touch. Treatment has come on in leaps and bounds in recent years and there is loads of support out there from various organisations. My dad had prostate cancer a couple of years ago. He was half expecting it, as it runs in his family, meaning he went for the PSA test regularly, but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with when it actually happens. He opted for for radiotherapy (it was a slow-growing tumour) and the treatment was a success... Cancer really sucks. My mum is now currently going through chemo (her second lot - first lot was for breast cancer about 15 years ago). It's a stressful time, but staying positive and taking each day as it comes is the best advice I can give. Cliched though it may sound. Onwards and upwards as they say :)


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My goodness @MildredM how thoughtful and brave of you to come and share that with us all.

 

I cannot imagine how horrible you must be feeling. Reiterating what you and others have said the 'positive' is that it has been found so early. I'm sure with your research you've seen the stats. They are very positive especially given the localised area.

 

Thinking of you both.

 

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Without writing War and Peace, I'm awestruck at your courage in sharing this news. You know you have the whole forum rooting for you both.

 

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Like everyone above, i’m very sad to read this.

I hope for the best outcome for Ian and yourself.

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Really sorry to hear what’s happened, fingers crossed everything will be good news for you from now on.

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I certainly wish to add my good wishes to you both and my hopes for a first class outcome. My Pa had it but it was more advanced before he found out so the rest of that story is of little relevance other than to say he was with us for a further 13 years and that was not why he died.

 

Massage though Mildred, you must consider massage. It will not affect the cancer but it WILL make Ian feel a lot better w20d9e.jpg33ytjiv.jpg

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Thinking of you both Mildred, all the best


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